The real value of a trip to the ER

So yesterday I had to go to the ER on a knee sprain. I knew I had a sprain and really the only reason I went was so I could get a brace and crutches.

My mom, dad & brother were all out of pocket, so I had to call J. He was going to be up at the house to get the kids in an hour anyway to take them to get some of their school clothes (he got the clothes but he is keeping it all at his place so they don't get lost). He did seem put out to come up there. I should have just an ambulance come get me (doesn't cost me because of his connection to the ambulance service). My mom arrived to take me to the ER while J took the kids shopping.

While we were waiting, he did his usual thing of having to be in worse health than me. For years anything wrong with me, he had to counter. If I was sick to my stomach, he had been for 3 days. So there I am sitting yesterday with my knee hurting and not able to put any weight on it, he had to tell me he had been out of work all week with a bad back. Interesting that with this, he didn't offer to take the kids any while he was home to give them additional supervision or more time with them. And I had asked him to come look at my toilet challenges and he never showed up.

Ok fast forward to the trip to the ER. J had called ahead which shortened my time in the ER. I didn't know how his co-workers would act around me, since most of them know our divorce proceedings. I will never complain how I was treated. But the best part was one of J's cousins came in to take care of me. At first, I wasn't sure that it was J's cousin. She first told me how sorry she was that J & I are divorcing.

Then the dirt came out. She wanted to tell me at Easter about J & Julie. She was very relieved to know that I had known and wasn't in the dark. Oh btw, Julie had called in sick all of this week too. And another one of the staff had seen J & Julie running around town together this week. J & Julie were being investigated by the hospital because it is believed they were in a room making out where a corpse was lying waiting for pick up. (And it turns out J has been accused of something like this before while working at another hospital during his training). It has been noted by the staff that they frequently disappear for long period of times. I'm betting that between these investigations and now his workers comp case, he will get fired (released) from the hospital. Even if nothing is proved, he is becoming too much trouble for the supervisors.

Cousin did not know that Julie had moved into his parents' place. Cousin did tell me how totally unliked Julie is by all of her co-workers. Cousin said that the extended family knows about the situation and most think J has lost his mind. His extended family has always been the better part of the deal, his immediate family is white trash while he has wonderful aunts and uncles. I told Cousin that J&Julie are officially dating now. She also didn't know about Julie's STBX challenges. I also told her about his online affair with Melanie a couple of years ago (she knew Melanie of course).

Oh and his excuse for our divorce? It is because I won't let him discipline the kids. So I told the cousin that I got very put out with him when he grounded KB to her bed for 7 days, knowing I would be the one to have to deal with making it actually happen. Or the time he got mad at the kids for being kids and told them they had 2 hours to mow and clean the yard while he went and took his nap before going to work. T & I worked that 2 hours and barely got it done. I told J that his punishments were not fair and usually punishing me. So this is his excuse for why we are divorcing.

I know that Cousin immediately went to share the information I gave her with the others on staff. It will take a few days but all of this will be around the ER. Even better if he stays out on leave. I really see him screwing up and losing this job. It hurts my continued quest to get money out of him but it will further piss off his parents about his choices in life and just maybe he will be forced to get a job with a real paycheck so I can get a real child support amout out of him.